Science Backs Up My Cougar “Field Experience” — Some Men are Too Young, Some Too Old, and Some are Just Right!

Male lifestages in catoon

There’s one stage in a man’s life that makes him an ideal cub to your cougar — 25 to 30. I highly recommend that every cougar indulge!

I had lunch with my old cub boyfriend a couple of months ago in a failed attempt to “just be friends.”

He’s entered a phase in his life where he wants to date a lot of women (read: have sex), including women of all ages.

“I’ve only got a few years left to be a cub. I need to maximize my time,” he said.

I shot him a killer side-eye.

“You realize you’re not really a cub anymore, right? You’re 32.”

He immediately pounced. “It’s not about my age. It’s about being younger than the woman.”

“No it’s not. It’s about a man being a certain age — and that is under 30.”

Clearly not pleased with this news, he gave me a disgusted look.

As he drove me home in silence on what would be our very last encounter, I imagined his mental wheels working overtime to disregard my opinion on the upper end of the cub age range.

But, in fact, it’s not just my opinion. Science backs me up.

After five years of dating younger men, I’ve found patterns in men’s behavior related to age.

I’ve determined that there are three primary age groups that women should consider when targeting cubs: think Goldilocks!

  • Some men are too young
  • Some are too old
  • Some are just right!

Male Age Group #1 — 18 to 24 is Too Young

I once heard two male radio deejays joking about cougars and how older women like 18-year-old guys because they are always ready for action. Plus, they are like raw clay, and women can shape them into their own personal sex machines, opined the deejays.

Maybe. But I’ve found a serious flaw with this age group. They are not hot, because their brains are not fully formed — and great sex is not just about an ever-ready stick attached to a testosterone machine.

Great sex is as much a mental game as it is physical. If their head isn’t in the game, the game is no fun.

(As for training them: Please. I don’t have that kind of time.)

It’s not just me being critical about men’s mental development. There’s scientific proof backing me up.

Men’s brains don’t reach full maturity until they are at least in the mid-20s, according to the Massachusetts Institute of technology.

According to an article in The Wall Street Journal:

“Recent research (from MIT) into how the brain develops suggests that people are better equipped to make major life decisions in their late 20s than earlier in the decade. The brain, once thought to be fully grown after puberty, is still evolving into its adult shape well into a person’s third decade, pruning away unused connections and strengthening those that remain, scientists say.”

Further the sections of the brain develop from back to front. The same article stated:

“The front part of the brain, called the prefrontal cortex, is one of the last brain regions to mature. It is the area responsible for planning, prioritizing and controlling impulses.”

By the late 20s, according to developmental psychologist Laurence Steinberg of Temple University:

“There’s better communication between the parts of the brain that process emotions and social information — like what people think of you — and the parts that are important for planning ahead and balancing risk and reward.”

Did you catch the key phrase in there? “Controlling impulses.”

Do you really want a younger man with poor control over his impulses?

I’ve only been with a couple of guys in this age category — and that was enough for me to realize that they make very poor sex partners.

Male Age Group #2 — 30+ is Too Old

While men are not quite fully adults until their mid-20s, according to recent research, once they hit 30 it’s all downhill from there.

And the downhill slide for men is not a pretty picture.

I’ll cut straight to the point and tell you what I’ve experience with 30+ men. They become not just set in their ways, but rigid.

Their interests start narrowing. I’m talking about narrowing down to ONE interest. And. That’s. It. It could be golf, or fishing, or bird watching. But that one thing is all they care about.

I met one man who was almost 50 and obsessed with one thing: pole vaulting. It was his hobby and his vocation as a coach. Every weekend in good weather he was traveling to (you guessed it) pole-vaulting events to compete with … (wait for it!) … himself! He was the only one in his age category at the events!

Meanwhile, I’ve been with 25 year olds who had multiple interests, like Brian who performed in a band, was studying advanced teaching sciences, and was making plans to travel the world. Another guy, Thomas, was studying to be a nurse, had a passion for video games, and was making plans to combine nursing with exploring the world.

What’s more, the older they get the more men’s sexual physicality begins to diminish. Come on — we’ve all seen all those ads for erectile dysfunction. It’s a real thing!

Again I’ll call on life stage research to support my claim. According to the Mayo Clinic, “by the time a man reaches 30, the amount of testosterone in his body will begin to decline, with a roughly one percent drop each year.” Ouch!

As if we need more proof, here’s something funny from the California Psychics website:

“One of the biggest complaints of older men is that they are stuck in their glory days, wearing the same clothes, listening to the same music, and using the same pickup lines as they did in college. Women, however, embrace the new by keeping up on the latest music, fashions, and hip dialect. This may lead some women to date younger men.”

Hell yeah!

Male Age Group #3 — 25 to 30 is Just Right

Now, let’s forget about the youngsters and oldsters — and talk about my favorite age group.

My best lovers have all been 25 to 30. That’s the age when men have shed their adolescent cocoon and entered the best years of their young adulthood. They are at their sexual peak, at their intellectual peak, and at their physical peak (read: hot as hell!).

Here’s what science has to say about this life stage:

“The fourth stage is known as young adulthood, and it is during this period that males reach their physical prime and during which they begin to renounce some of the bad habits of their past. It is also during this period that males begin to develop a desire for achievement and betterment, and it may very well be during young adulthood that the inspiration is acquired for the later stages of life. This is also the prime of physical development for males.”

Yummy! I’ll take three!

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That’s Right! I’m Embarking on a Satisfaction Journey this Year — Care to Join Me?

Sexy 2014 Happy New Year

I resolve that 2014 is going to be the hottest year of my life — with the most younger men ever. What’s your sexy New Year’s resolution?

Happy New Year Ladies!

I’m looking forward to a hot and sexy 2014 — aren’t you?

During my life as a cougar for the past four years I have experienced some of the best sex of my life.

The first two years I had a series of regular trysts with a few cubs, as well as several one-night stands.

Then I dated one cub exclusively for two years — and by dating I mean we actually went out to movies, dinner, etc.

Now I’m back on the market and ready to mingle with some new younger men.

However, one thing will be different this year.

In the past, I enjoyed chatting with the guys. Extensively!

Those conversations resulted a lot of eye-opening insight into the male psyche — and the creation of my first book: Conversations With Men Online: The Naked Truth on What Men Think About Women and Sex in Their Own Words.

I liked getting inside their heads, as my book says, “in their most unguarded moments” — to see how they really think.

However, I’m done with all the chitchat now.

“Close Your Mouth … and Baby Satisfy Me!”

Now I’ve adopted a totally new approach to the cougar lifestyle — one that can best be summed up in the lyrics to one of Elvis Presley’s most popular songs:

A little less conversation, a little more action please
All this aggravation ain’t satisfactioning me
A little more bite and a little less bark
A little less fight and a little more spark
Close your mouth and open up your heart and baby satisfy me

LOL!

I’ve talked enough to the younger guys. Now I just need them to get busy on my body.

And that’s what 2014 is going to be all about.

“It’s a Groovy Night — and I Can Show You How to Use It”

Why am I redirecting my focus?

Because I’m approaching a period when I might actually want to settle down — IF I can find the right guy.

But first I’ve got a few more wild oats to sow. You know what I mean?

I want to find the hottest, most satisfying younger guys this year — and have the maximum amount of fun that I can have.

I don’t even care about having regular ongoing relationships — a long series of one-night stands will be just fine. In fact, I prefer it — the anticipation and mystery is so much hotter.

Are you interested in finding out how my satisfaction journey unfolds?

Just subscribe to my blog — and you’ll get all the juicy, steamy, satisfying details in my weekly updates.

Oh, and I hope you’ll embark on your own satisfaction expedition this year too — and share all the yummy details!

Here’s to having as much hot sex as we possibly can in 2014.

We’ve even got a theme song! ;)

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